When we were in the beginning stages of the approval process of obtaining a PCA for Noah, we were told to think about scheduling, when we'd like them to come out, and when they would be most helpful. While I knew that they would be most helpful to us on weekdays during the early evenings for supper, bath time, and bed time wind down, I also knew that I wanted a PCA at least sometime, just for a couple of hours over the weekend.
I had multiple reasons for wanting a PCA for a couple of hours on the weekends. First of all, weekends can sometimes be hard on Noah. There is no school, there's a more laid back, less structured routine and that can be difficult for Noah. Secondly, I thought it would be nice to have help with Noah so that J and I could have a little time to ourselves, to run errands, or even just leisurely cook dinner together without Noah being underfoot.
What has resulted months after that initial thought of "wouldn't it be nice" has now become "Saturday Date Nights." Sometimes we run errands that we have been putting off doing with Noah and take our time doing those and grab a bite to eat. Other times we have cooked dinner together and then enjoyed our meal together in peace without interruptions! And sometimes we go out - our favorite Saturday night eating spot has become a nearby Mexican restaurant that has awesome fajitas and karaoke on Saturday nights. It's nice to talk, eat, and not worry about Noah. Oh, and giggling at the tweens singing every Taylor Swift song she ever wrote is fun too!
Our marriage wasn't/isn't rocky by any means but being a parent of a special needs child (or being a parent period for that matter!) can be stressful at times. There are times that Noah has us both on edge and we snap at one another. Luckily, we learned a long time ago to overlook those snippy moments but I'm very grateful for this new time on Saturday nights where J and I can re-group as a couple.