Sunday, February 6, 2011

Noah's PCA

I have been meaning to write about this forever but am just now getting around to it. When we were going through the process of applying for a Personal Care Aide (PCA) I looked and looked for personal experiences with PCAs of other families of special needs kiddos but couldn't find any so my hope is that if anyone else out there is going through the process of approval or thinking about applying they might find this post and find it helpful. 

For over a year before I finally applied, people were urging us to apply for a PCA for Noah. I felt it wasn't necessary at that time until his surgery was coming up. I decided to go ahead and apply back in April of 2010 and finally in Spetember Noah was approved to get 15 hours of a PCA in our home.

I'm not gonna lie - it hasn't been exactly easy or comfortable for me, especially in the beginning. I had a very hard time letting them do anything. At first, I let them do more housekeeping type duties (sweep Noah's room, change his bed, etc) and then I slowly worked up to letting them do more with Noah. But I just felt bad/guilty for needing them. I felt like I shouldn't need them here, like other mothers don't need help and it was bad that I did but then I quickly had to remind myself other mothers don't have 14 year olds who don't walk, talk, and who need as much assistance with basic daily things like dressing and eating as Noah does. It's not a "normal" situation and I have to realize and recognize that to be ok with it. 

Over time though, I have gotten more comfortable with it. So much to the point that I now feel comfortable leaving Noah alone with them while J and I run to eat or run to the store or something like that. 

We have a PCA come in the evening, right around the time Noah usually wakes up from a nap. She is able to help him with eating while I cook dinner, read to him, give him a bath, etc. We don't have her here every day but it is nice at times on the day she is here to not have to try and juggle dealing with Noah while I cook dinner or get his bath in before J has to leave for work. 

We did initially have a couple of issues with some of the PCAs they were sending. But the one we have currently (aside from her issues of being late, which we are working on) seems pretty good with Noah. She was actually sent as a fill in but when I learned she had experience with kids with CP, I specifically requested her. 

So, I'll keep y'all updated on how it is going. 


  1. It is difficult finding a Personal Care Aide that meets all the criteria we want as a loved one of the person needing care. But finding one that works out is such a relief. They give us a little time to do things that wouldn't otherwise get done...I'll be thinking of you, your husband and son!

  2. I think it's such a wonderful thing that you're able to get some help. I know that if I were in your situation, I'd feel the same as you. I'd feel like I'm supposed to be fully in charge of taking care of my child. He (or she, for that matter) mine, after all. But like you said, I'd have to remind myself that Noah is special, and sometimes we need help with special circumstances. I'm so glad you have this...and thanks for sharing! :-)

  3. I think its great that you have help...sometimes Mom's need a break...just look at it that way, you're just taking a break! :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

  4. Glad you're finding someone that seems to be working out for you, my friend finally got a good one that is great with her son and gives her a break too!

    Thanks again for posting on my blog today! :D

  5. Hey coley! Right there with ya sister! Been dealing with this very issue with faith. My big problem is juggling what we need to do and getting the PCA back in time. Lol

  6. I just popped over from Just Add Glitter because I thought your project was adorable and wanted to say thank you. BUT reading this makes me want to jump through the monitor and hug you (not meant in a creepy way I swear).
    My uncle has CP, and my grandmother is the most remarkable woman in my world. It sounds like you are doing exactly what you need to for your family, which makes you a person of rock star caliber.